Authenticity in Dating

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Sarah couldn’t understand what was wrong. She loved dating, she loved relationships. Yet every one that she had seemed to start off great, but then fizzle out. Why wasn’t she connecting with anyone?? Sarah came to meet me and after a few minutes, we began to figure out the issue: Sarah was a dating chameleon. She was constantly changing her colors to match the people she was with. With one guy, she was a sports fan, with another, she loved the outdoors. She did everything she could to be loved, but in the end, she got dumped! Does this story sound familiar?

How to Stop Acting and Start Attracting

Do you want to be loved? Like…really loved? I’m guessing the answer is yes. But did you ever think that to really be loved, you have to really be yourself?

We do so many things because we think they will make people like us. But here’s the catch: if what people like about you is something you’re pretending to be, do they like…or love…the real YOU?

Newsflash! The person you marry has got to appreciate YOU, the real YOU, the deepest YOU – not something you’re pretending to be.

Not only that – but you can only pretend for so long. You can say you love football, but what happens when he talks about the unforgettable catch between Joe Montana and Dwight Clark in 1982 and asks if you’re a fan of the 49ers? Your eyes glaze over, you hem and haw, and then you smile sweetly and say, “Um…who?” *cringe* The true you will eventually come out, and if the person you’re dating doesn’t love that person, you’re going to have a problem…

This is why the first step to finding a spouse is to know yourself. You need to stop pretending and be honest about what you enjoy and what you want.

Worried that your true self might not be good enough? That's normal. We all fear rejection. But marriage thrives on authenticity. By being genuine from the start, you'll attract someone who genuinely appreciates you.

That’s what Sarah did.

She took some time off, figured out who she really was and what she really valued, and when she started dating again, she met Aaron. For the first time, she felt connected. She couldn’t believe how easy it felt.

She felt loved and cherished for the first time without having to try so hard. Aaron just seemed to like the spark in her that nobody else had, and was fine with her not liking sports or hiking. But Sarah only found Aaron because she took the time to learn how to be her true self..